Date Report

and other questions answered (Casey and Cristen)


On the whole "dating a guy" thing. My history is that I've always dated men/guys/boys with one exception, my X.

I've always been a Tomboy, and growing up in Elementary school all my friends were guys. I started 7th grade and suddenly wanted to start kissing those guys:)



I've had close relationships with women, but usually only one Best Friend. Well, that's changed as an adult, but that's irrelevant I guess.


In college everyone THOUGHT I was gay. I was irritated by the assumption. I became great friends with a lesbian (shout out Nel) and became O.K. with the whole gay thing in general. After a while I started to wonder I guess... I then realized I had a serious "Crush" on my best friend. (shout out to Christy) and thought maybe I was gay. Now I think that we just sometimes get "crushes" on people in general, and women can definitely form strong relationships with other women and early in a friendship, that might sometimes be described as an emotional crush. (Nicole and I were just talking about this--shout out to Coley).

So, I've had lots of boyfriends, and even been engaged once (I think Troy reads this blog, shout out to him). My issue was this: the men I was physically attracted to, I was never emotionally attracted to and vice versa. So I gave the whole relationship with a woman thing a chance and here I am 12 years later. By the way, I've broke up with many a man because they just were "too nice", now I wonder what my life would have been like had I married one of those "Nice" guys.

Why such a long relationship with a woman? My theory is that I happened to be dating a woman when I figured out what makes a relationship work - COMMITMENT. You just have to chose someone who you have fun with, who you respect and simply be committed. All relationships will ebb and flow for months or years at a time. You simply have to be committed to doing the work to make it last.

So, I hope that clarifies things. I still meet women who I adore, but if I could go out and have casual sex (which I can't due to my guilt/conscious/morals) it would definitely be with a man.

Now about "Crush Guy"

He is just as wonderful in person. He is a super nice guy, funny, and very interesting to talk to. (As a quality, funny is over rated in my book, but I can appreciate the positive, easy-going aspect of humor) Our date went 4.5 hours and consisted of a bowling adventure, a wonderful dinner at a local German restaurant, which even included a mini lesson on graphing linear equations :)


So far, the only thing I'm suspicious about is that the may have been less than truthful about his height, but I can definitely live with that:)

Next up, is a hockey game tonight.

So, I'm going to cancel my date with guy #2. He's nice, but just not a match for me. Even in the casual dating world I can't juggle 2 guys. Seriously I even get confused about whose parents are divorced, married, who is from where...how do serial daters do it?